A Lens of Self
It never fails that I end up giving advice to someone else that I’m refusing to take myself, because in looking at their situation, I see mine. I never know who I’m advising in these situations—them, or me? I guess it’s some of both.
I’m fairly sure that I’m not alone in this. I guess writing this is my way of asking if I am, though; introspection is nice, but flaying myself open a little and letting everyone look inside is both useful and not. Maybe, in looking at my problems, you’ll see your own.
That said, I am going to take the advice I just gave, because I really do think that I need to take it. I’m not ready for all the steps yet, but … I’m ready for this one.
Posted January 23rd, 2006 in Introspection.
I would say this is a common thing. At least for me and others that I communicate with.
Take the advice you would give others. That advice is more objective.
Before giving advice, though, it is helpful to know as much about the situation as possible. I’m sure you already know that.
January 24th, 2006 at 16:29Yeah. Before I started dispensing advice like Pez—you pick the orifice used in your own mind’s eye, which you might have to pluck out ;)—I asked a bunch of questions.
Taking my own advice on that score has been good. It’s given me a peace about the matter.
January 24th, 2006 at 16:31On a tangent (I’m not talking about you), isn’t it amazing how people with the most screwed up lives know exactly how you should live your life?
January 25th, 2006 at 07:09Ehhh, I think we’re all pretty screwed up, Roger.
January 25th, 2006 at 12:44